The Word of the Year: Choreplay
Posted on 17. Feb, 2008 by Brian Reid in General
Longtime readers know that I delight in any social science that suggests that the best way to ensure a robust sex life is to have a household in which dad does his fair share, so I was tickled when my erstwhile hometown paper, the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, brought the issue to the fore for Valentine’s Day. The headline pretty much said it all: “Want to get your woman in the mood? Try doing housework,” and quoted various relationship experts emphasizing that — yes — doing housework and minding the kids gets women in the mood.
Apparently, Parenting Magazine has dubbed this “choreplay,” which is an absolutely lovely turn of phrase. (Though for a less rosy take on the idea, check out this Chicago Trib article.)
The AJC article was brought to my attention by Working Dad, Paul Nyhan, who had a great perspective on the subject. In his mind (and mine), while there may certainly be a link between happy, sex-filled marriages and guys who take an egalitarian attitude toward the household, it’s kind of silly to think that finding and operating the vacuum cleaner at a stunt is enough to get a woman worked up.
PJ
18. Feb, 2008
It would also be nice if women did their financial share of contributing to the family. Why isn’t this discussed as also important?
Kelly M. Bray
18. Feb, 2008
How about fixing the car, trimming the tree in the backyard, fixing the sprinklers, patching that pesky roof leak, replacing the faucet, and fixing the outlet the vacuum is plugged into?
Dave
19. Feb, 2008
Chores.. ..nope.. if she does more chores I feel like I’m not doin’ my job well..
But.. to get the kids to do chores.. now that gets my blood goin..
For all you dads that haven’t found a way to get some chores done.. you MUST check this out.
http://www.chorewars.com
when you speak of me.. speak well..
Kelly M. Bray
19. Feb, 2008
Thats pretty funny Dave, I could use it with my kids…When they get home I will show it to them