Comments on: "Even the Most Enlightened, Feminist Males Struggle" With At-Home Role, Says ABC http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html Putting Fatherhood Under the Microscope Mon, 26 Jul 2010 07:23:42 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: William Young http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3401 William Young Mon, 18 May 2009 15:11:03 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3401 This kind of *analysis* of sahds is truly sad, because these nutjobs in the MSM just don't get us. On the one hand, they're all for CHANGE! and the re-ordering of society along new, whackjob theories (gay marriage &etc [NTTAWWT]) and then when they find society re-ordered in some way (SAHDs & etc), the media expresses *concern* about how society has been re-ordered and wonders if it's a good thing. What am I: a super-empowered "modern DAD" not afraid of diapers and raising children, or am I recently emasculated man forced into a life of child raising because there's just no other choice and I'm a hapless shmuck anyway? But I did all the cooking and cleaning pre-children, so what's the dif? Now I just have people to yell at when things are flowing my way... This kind of *analysis* of sahds is truly sad, because these nutjobs in the MSM just don’t get us. On the one hand, they’re all for CHANGE! and the re-ordering of society along new, whackjob theories (gay marriage &etc [NTTAWWT]) and then when they find society re-ordered in some way (SAHDs & etc), the media expresses *concern* about how society has been re-ordered and wonders if it’s a good thing.

What am I: a super-empowered “modern DAD” not afraid of diapers and raising children, or am I recently emasculated man forced into a life of child raising because there’s just no other choice and I’m a hapless shmuck anyway?

But I did all the cooking and cleaning pre-children, so what’s the dif? Now I just have people to yell at when things are flowing my way…

]]> By: Mark http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3400 Mark Sat, 16 May 2009 05:08:20 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3400 No, I'd say "struggle" is about right. As you've documented terrifically in the past, the optimal arrangement I think is a shared parenting role. When you have an either-or situation (FT SAHD or SAHM), I've come to believe it can often create an imbalance, whether conscious or unconscious. Women seem to accept this arrangement more easily than men in my observation. No, I’d say “struggle” is about right. As you’ve documented terrifically in the past, the optimal arrangement I think is a shared parenting role. When you have an either-or situation (FT SAHD or SAHM), I’ve come to believe it can often create an imbalance, whether conscious or unconscious. Women seem to accept this arrangement more easily than men in my observation.

]]> By: Kelly M. Bray http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3399 Kelly M. Bray Thu, 07 May 2009 06:45:32 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3399 I am not a feminist. Does that mean that when I was a stay at home dad I was miserable and crazy? Funny, I was having the most special time of my life... go figure! I am not a feminist. Does that mean that when I was a stay at home dad I was miserable and crazy? Funny, I was having the most special time of my life… go figure!

]]> By: Greg Barbera http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3398 Greg Barbera Thu, 07 May 2009 00:53:02 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3398 i think the scarier transition has been to leave my primary caregiver role and go back to work.. i think the scarier transition has been to leave my primary caregiver role and go back to work..

]]> By: DJ Nelson http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3397 DJ Nelson Wed, 06 May 2009 23:21:53 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3397 Well you know, people need something to talk about so they act like everything under the sun is new. Well you know, people need something to talk about so they act like everything under the sun is new.

]]> By: Jeff http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3396 Jeff Wed, 06 May 2009 21:47:27 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3396 Haha! Google Algorithm...that's hilarious. Bravo Rebel Dad. Haha! Google Algorithm…that’s hilarious. Bravo Rebel Dad.

]]> By: Working Dad http://rebeldad.com/2009/05/even-most-enlightened-feminist-males.html/comment-page-1#comment-3395 Working Dad Wed, 06 May 2009 18:30:25 +0000 http://rebeldad.com/beta/?p=1215#comment-3395 I couldn't agree more RD, and I am going though it as I type this. I couldn’t agree more RD, and I am going though it as I type this.

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