Comments on: HuffPo on Guys at Home

By: Spencer at pinkbluecafe.com

Spencer at pinkbluecafe.com — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:57:15 +0000

Does it matter if it is at home or in public?

A sidewalk gives food a different life-expectancy than the living room floor.

By: Rick

Rick — Mon, 22 Oct 2007 05:05:14 +0000

Come on peeps – it’s now a thirty second rule – they even did a study. So my parenting is probably even “scarier.”

By: Dave

Dave — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 18:15:22 +0000

It’s simple.. people always thing their lot it worse than others.. the parent with a paying job thinks that working for a paying boss is harder than at home parenting.. They think that because they aren’t at home parents.. and if they were.. they dropped it because they couldn’t keep up with whatever expectations they had for the job.

Dishes will sit.. and dishes will get done.. food will hit the floor.. floors will be dirty.. floors will be clean.. if ya ain’t doin’ it full time, you won’t appreciate how much work it really is..

It’s like a guy of one racial background trying to figure out how it is to be from another racial background… you can intellectualize it.. but you can’t know it..

Those of us in the trenches have to tell.. and we’re too busy to keep track of all the emotions and work.. hell.. we’re busy moving past one instant to the next.. if we stopped to write about it.. it’d make the next moments that much harder.. so we rely on our memories to write our stories.. and we edit them to make them readable.. and they just don’t convey the gravity of the job.

They won’t get it.. we need to accept that.. it is part of our job.

By: Spencer at pinkbluecafe.com

Spencer at pinkbluecafe.com — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 17:06:11 +0000

Thank you for staying on top of this and blogging about it.

Your arguments are rational, and with a bit of humor, which makes for very level-headed and enjoyable reading.

Spencer
Fellow Stay at Home Parent (Dad)

By: Dustin

Dustin — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 15:16:25 +0000

She’s basically parroting back the kind of stuff that’s kept men *out* of real fathering for so long: men are no good at this kind of stuff, so women *have* to do it.

It’s sad and even objectionable, but kind of understandable. A lot of men complained mightily when women started taking on the kinds of work that had defined men as “Men”; it stands to reason that many women would fight back when a lot of men (and like you said, 2 million-plus is quite a few!) start taking on work the previously defined “womanhood”.

By: Ginny

Ginny — Wed, 17 Oct 2007 14:40:07 +0000

As a mother and the wife of a stay at home dad, I don’t have a problem with
1) the five second rule for dropped food
2) the occasional mismatched outfit (or heaven forbid too-short pants)
and
3) while i don’t like to look at dishes in the sink, they most certainly are not going to cause or create any communicable diseases.

So maybe I am not a “slam-dunk” as a mother??