Comments on: What Women Want

By: a VERY UNHAPPY WOMAN

a VERY UNHAPPY WOMAN — Thu, 15 Feb 2007 14:04:26 +0000

Let me put this bluntly – as a woman who has tragically had to take care of herself and others through two marriages – I am sick to death of all this woman can do it all attitude. I am devested that my husband no longer wishes to work outside the home. We have a three year old and I want to stay home but that somehow just is not in the cards. If you ask me this trend of men staying home is good but also a very bad thing – I cannot tell my family about this afer two years – they just would not be supportive- thank god they live in Alaska. Some women do well in a career – I am just surviving and I hate it.

By: Kelly M. Bray

Kelly M. Bray — Mon, 12 Feb 2007 06:02:06 +0000

Brian, can you give me a link about that board essay you were talking about? I read the Marie Clare article, and the nicest thing I can say about it is it is disturbing. Thanks.

By: Christof

Christof — Sat, 10 Feb 2007 07:00:29 +0000

For the most part, this L.A. Times article validates your analysis and optimism.

Of course, at the end, it pushes a bit toward representing households in which women make more, are the primary breadwinners as deviant and/or dangerous when it implies that divorce is more likely in such a non-traditional household (I believe you made a critique of exactly this issue in another entry in which you analyzed another media outlet’s coverage of stay-at-home dads).

On a completely different note, I’m just setting out in the blogsophere myself and, though I haven’t had much time to come back to your blog (with a 2-year-old and 5-month old), and a full-time job (which has fairly flexible hours and allows me to take care of our kids for about 15 hours a week while my wife works part time), I enjoy your entries — especially the media criticism (which, as a professor of journalism studies) is something I love to do as well.

Finally, as another person noted above, I’d be interested in mommy blogs written by moms in households in which dad stays at home too.

By: James

James — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 22:01:32 +0000

That was an interesting article. Also on MSN Lifestyle was I Love My Alpha Wife that gives another perspective.

By: Rebel Dad

Rebel Dad — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 21:29:08 +0000

Paul –
a) I have an army of wonderful people who send me stuff/write about it first (where do you think the Alternadad post came from?). I do very little original thinking. But if it’s new to you …
b) My children are currently raising themselves, with the aid of RebelMom. Very independent, those kids.

By: Working Dad

Working Dad — Fri, 09 Feb 2007 17:49:35 +0000

RebelDad – I’m not sure when you find time to work and raise your kids because you are nearly always first to uncover interesting parenting articles.

By: Pete Aldin

Pete Aldin — Thu, 08 Feb 2007 23:48:05 +0000

My wife has earned more than me for the past 7 years. Sometimes that’s a hard one to wear, but most of the time I just look at her and realise “She’s happy doing what she’s doing and I’m happy doing what I’m doing.” It’s not about the money, it’s about the lifestyle.

By: Rebel Dad

Rebel Dad — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 17:05:48 +0000

lizriz — halfchangedworld.com is a good start, though I’m there are others that I just can’t think of right now.

Amy — Thanks for sharing. I’ll check it out.

By: Amy Vachon

Amy Vachon — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 16:07:08 +0000

Brian,
I’ve long admired your writing and knowledge of parenting/balance, but haven’t yet written to you until now. Today, I just had to write. My husband Marc and I (yes, another Marc and Amy, but I LOVE my Beta husband and I’m keeping him) are passionate about equal sharing – that sometimes elusive middle ground between stay-at-home Mom and stay-at-home Dad. We both work 30 hours per week, and each have lots of time to be home with our kids on our own. The bonds we’ve both forged with our kids are priceless, and we’ve done so while still being able to maintain meaningful careers and bring in enough money. We are now dedicated to sharing the benefits and challenges (and how-to’s) of this lifestyle with others. From your past writings here and on ‘On Balance’, I suspect you would enjoy visiting our website: http://www.equallysharedparenting.com. We would love to hear your thoughts. Thanks, and keep up the cause of involved dads and balanced lives!

-Amy Vachon
amy@equallysharedparenting.com

By: lizriz

lizriz — Wed, 07 Feb 2007 16:03:37 +0000

I’m curious if you know of any mommy blogs that are written by mothers who’s husbands are stay-at-home dads?